Self gaslighting and the trauma bond

The ability to know how hard it was for us in childhood is an important thing to achieve. It is something I most truly have struggled with for years. My recent conflict with my sister was good in that it made the aspect of our trauma bond clearer to me and listening to this talk by Dr Kim Sage made even clearer to me how and why we learn to turn against ourselves and what we can do to turn this toxic parenting we internalize around.