There is a book that I happened upon many years ago and it is called Healing Your Aloneness. I found it extremely helpful to my recovery as it suggested the true depths of loneliness we so often experience tend to come from being alienated or disconnected from our inner child and also from a loving connection to a power greater than ourselves. When we are disconnected we are no longer loving to ourselves and then we seek that missing love externally which only reinforces the belief others are at fault if they fail to embrace us in our neediness. Feeling empty we then only come to feel more empty again looking outside rather than filling our cup from within.
This morning I happened upon this older post of mine that addresses the subject of grief over unmet needs.
Lately, I honor my ability to show myself more compassion and to recognize more deeply how contemplation and insight affords me, over time a healing and more generous perspective on emotions and reaction patterns that troubled me. Being able to sit with any pain or fear and offer that wounded or mistaken part of me love is part of the path of feeling ‘held’, in my ego, something pointed out in the previous post by author David Richo. This kind of holding needs to come from within, by being able to recognize my humanity and vulnerability. From that perspective I can also understand the humanity and vulnerability of others, even if their reactions are not showing it overtly. Staying with the vulnerability opens my heart to self love, self understanding, wisdom, care and compassion and healing only comes when I move out of my fearful anger and into the truth of what is really happening deeply inside of me.
Emerging From The Dark Night 
It sounds like an interesting book.
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Margaret Paul is wonderful DLH her other books are Inner Bondig and Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You she also has an online Inner Boning Support Group. ❤
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