This is a beautiful description by writer Susan Cain on the qualities of depth of feeling that mark some of us out for lives in which we try to turn our depths of pain and sadness in our lives into beauty or soul food. Sadly often modern society pathologises us for feeling in this way, a tradition that began when Freud compared melancholy to depression and yes, the two are related but in her wonderful new book Bittersweet : How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, she turns this interpretation around and shows how limited it is. The gifts of embracing our sadness and longing actually end up making us more compassionate and more capable of acknowledging our shared humanity.
bittersweetness shows us how to respond to pain: by acknowledging it and attempting to turn it into art, the way musicians do, or healing, or innovation, or anything else that nourishes the soul. If we don’t transform our sorrows and longings, we can end up inflicting them upon others via abuse, dominion, neglect.. But if we realise that all humans know, or will know – loss and suffering, we can turn toward each other.
Susan Cain : Bittersweet ; How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole
I just finished reading this marvelous book. It is filled with so many thoughtful passages and literature quotations that I found myself marking up the pages. Definitely a 5 star review for me.
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It truly is a wonderful book, it resonates so deeply with me. Lovely to read your comment.
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I read this book, and loved it. I feel she is a similar soul to us. If you haven’t read it, I do recommend it. 🙂
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I just bought it yesterday it spoke to my soul so deeply.
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Yes, mine too! I often feel like such an odd duck personality and interest wise. So always reassuring to be reminded many are like us.
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I really recommend you read Sensitive Is the New Strong by Anita Moorjani… that will explain even more.. ..<3
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Thats a beautiful piece Deb! So relatable! ❤
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This means a lot hugs and love ❤
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