Grief just is

It is so important to have those around us who validate our grief.. I can tell you there is nothing harder than being so very sad about something and being told not to or that the person who passed didn’t want your feelings to be that way.. It may be true if we care about others we do not want them to suffer but then to love is to care and this brings to mind a very important quote from C S Lewis who knew intimately and deeply how it was to lose someone he loved deeply.

Never the less its like in this society (or used to be) that grief was seen as perhaps some kind of aberration.. I even recall a person writing about grief on this site who had the opinion that all grief over loss was self indulgent, and only about the sufferer.. Some probably do believe this but it pays to remember those invest.

The more we live the more we can lose and the sadder life can seen sometimes, certainly grief is not the whole of it fun, laughter and joy have a place and become more meaningful with each loss. The important point is that being acknowedged for your reactions is like having a warm balm applied to a wound rather than have someone trying to rip the band aid off and shouting at you for being wounded. That just bloody well hurts!