In order not to die, all mistreated children must totally repress the mistreatment, deprivation, and bewilderment they have undergone because otherwise the child’s organism wouldn’t be able to cope with the magnitude of the pain suffered. Only as adults do they have other possibilities for dealing with their feelings. If they don’t make use of these possibilities, then what was once the life-saving function of repression can be transformed into a dangerous destructive, and self-destructive force. In the careers of despots such as Hitler and Stalin, their suppressed fantasies of revenge can lead to indescribable atrocities.
This phenomenon doesn’t exist anywhere in the entire animal kingdom, for no animal is trained by its parents to deny its nature completely in order to become a “well-behaved” animal – only human beings act in such a destructive way.
According to the reports of Nazi criminals (and also of soldiers who volunteered to fight in Vietnam), their unconscious programming to be violent began in every case with a brutal upbringing that demanded absolute obedience and expressed total contempt for the child. I know of no example of this which is so well-documented and which demonstrates so clearly the consequences of the psychological murder of children – bringing along with it a form of collective blindness – than the fateful success of Adolf Hitler.
Alice Miller
Link:
https://www.naturalchild.org/articles/alice_miller/adolf_hitler.html
Emerging From The Dark Night 
This is common to us who’d, been traumatized, as children, we can’t deal, cope with what was happening to our bodies, minds, souls, and hearts, and so, in order to protect us, our minds finds ways, to keep the truth of what’s happening to us away from us, until we’re, old enough, and when the timing’s just right, then, all will, reveal itself, and it still came as a shock, regardless, but we’re, better able to handle things, because, our minds know we’re, ready to.
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Yes children need parents to help them.manage feelings and trauma or abuse overwhelms a young vulnerablesensitive bodyand mind. . Sadly for some the truth remains repressed for life.
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