To care is to be vulnerable. According to the world its not cool to be vulnerable, its cool to be stoic, aloof, and unconcerned, because to emotionally inept people, this shows resilience, strength of character and the oh so admirable quality of being eternally unbothered. But this is all wrong, because to be constantly ‘unbothered’ is to be dead inside. For a lot of people, caring means losing. These are the people who invest all of their energy into performing instead of living because to appear unbothered all of the time, you must be in a constant state of pretence. Don’t aim to be like these people. They need more help than you think you do. But it is not your place to save them.
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I have made it my aim to stop trying to be likeable and instead just focus on being honest. When you die, no body is going to remember you as the person who made sure they pleased everybody and silenced them self. The world does not care.
What A Time To Be Alone : The Slumflower’s Guide to Why You Are Already Enough.
Chidera Eggerue
Emerging From The Dark Night 
true! thats so damn true deb! I wholeheartedly agree too!
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Love this! Good reminder 😊
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Yea me too. It was a great find the book this comes from full of great reads on how to be yourself and not take on other’s bullshit. ❤
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Love your take on life, and so true what you share, it takes courage, confidence, self acceptance and love to make oneself vulnerable. We appear to be on the same page in our sharing. Love your site!
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Thanks so much and a fellow Aussie? Lovely to meet you.
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Yess! I relate to this so much. I am vulnerable!
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Me too though sadly sometimes I try to hide it. ⚘
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Vul nerability is not a weakness
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