One of my most commented on and read posts involves understanding and healing the scapegoat with. I was moved to post this reply from the comments section on that post which addresses healing for those of us with high level empathy, sensitivity or emotionality. We may not always be accepted by the world at large, but we can find healing and acceptance deep within our own hearts.
I think that it is a journey to find belonging and ultimately we need know we belong to ourselves, regardless of others opinions, judgements, projections.. First we need to understand what happened to us, because due to process whereby we become scapegoated or exiled we can suffer from deep feelings of being too different, bad, difficult, wrong etc. If we internalise these beliefs we can suffer so much. But if we can come to see that it was the group, people or community who was in fact threatened in some way, we can come to understand that being on the outside may not have to be a curse, or the loneliest place and that we do have gifts to give. If we become identified with that role,we can remain a victim in our own mind and open to further victimisation. We have to come to know that our anger, sensitivity, dramatic self expression or whatever is okay and we can find channels outside the hurtful ones to express. At least that is my understanding and experience.
Emerging From The Dark Night 