A reblog of a post I wrote in 2017 that seemed to resonate.
If we are pack animals then what makes some of us into lone wolves? If you study the neurobiology of trauma it occurs as damage in the brain when the attempt to attach, bond or connect fails or is hurt, damaged or thwarted. We also build neural interconnections through stimulation and connection, and empathy and love help those positive soothing chemicals to flow and the flow of such chemicals is reduced or prevented by stress, harsh treatment and lack of heart to heart connection and empathy.
In my own life I became a lone wolf, it became harder to connect or trust others as traumas came to befall me and when as youngster and young teenager I was left alone a lot, which was a repeat pattern that flowed along a generational line. I did feel apart though, even before these traumas happened to me, growing up in a family…
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Lovely thoughts 🙂 I think that we need first to get back in touch with who we really are and only then we can connect authentically with other people. So we need our loner wolf phases into our lives 🙂 The challenge is to find the balance between connection and independence 🙂 (some people call it interdependence)
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Thats is very true. We cannoylt acheive true intimacy with another until we are intimate with ourselves. If weve been overpowered by others in childhood lone wolfing is essential to find our authentic power and true self.
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