Accepting the past

Pain and trauma from my past cannot be changed.  They can only be healed.  I am lucky to be born in a time when so much help is available.  Lucky that I don’t have to suffer in silence, lucky that I have resources.  Today I will resolve to reach out for the help I need to heal old wounds that block my path towards soul.

I can ask for help.

The first and fundamental challenge for … a person is to confront his fate as it is, to reconcile himself to the fact that he did receive a bad deal, to know that justice is irrelevant, that no one will ever make up for the emptiness and pain of those first years.  The past cannot be changed – it can only be acknowledged and learned from.  It is one’s destiny.  It can be absorbed and mitigated by new experiences, but it cannot be changed or erased.  He only adds insult to injury by going on the rest of his life knocking his head against the same stone wall.  Fortunately, psychotherapy can be a vehicle through which human beings may become more aware of and compensate for such implanted destiny.

Rollo May

(Extract taken from Tian Dayton’s book The Soul’s Companion. p. 80)