Fear is not always a phantom. Sometimes it can be a clear warning sign and according to energy intuitive Kyle Gray as well as (we all know) a lingering feeling associated with the pain of past loss betrayal or abandonments. Fear does demand of us a spiritual practice but also an awareness of when it is being triggered as a way to see what we are reacting to and where the roots of that fear lie. We do at times need to protect ourselves from unsafe others. Just not everyone in this world cares about us.
These following are some wise words though on fear that come from Kyle’s book Light Warrior : Connecting with the Spiritual Power of Fierce Love.
Even though I know I can never truly prepare for the unknown, one thing I do know is that even if my spiritual practice isn’t able to change a situation or a fear or a loss, it will hold me through the healing. I know that it’s the reason I’ll recover, and I’ll definately recover better with it than without it.
I believe dealing with fear is the primary cause of mental health concerns, but I do believe that tapping into the warrior within can really help our mental wellbeing.
Let dealing with fear be you warrior training. Let it be an opportunity to move into the love that created you – the love that you are.
We ALWAYS have a choice of how we respond to fear one we are no longer unaware or unconcious of its presence.
In this book Kyle gives the example from the Buddha’s life where Mara (fear) came looking for him. One of his disciples wanted to lie to Mara about the Buddha’s where abouts but the Buddha discouraged him and let Mara in to his cave . He just looked on Mara and said “I see you, Mara” gazing at the demon in his eyes. “He conversed with him. He accepted him. He allowed him to be there and found comfort in his presence.”
Mara is your fear
The guard or disciple is your ego.
The Buddha is the voice of your soul.
When fear appears, even though it’s a creation of the ego, the egoistic response it not to let it in. Your ego wants you to feel fear, but it definately doesnt want you to deal with it. I just wants you to be contained. So the little guard within you says, ‘Pretend you are not in,’ or makes you ignore it by focusing on something else or getting busy. This essentially buries the fear deeper and deeper.
But your soul is constantly connected to love. So, when you allow your soul to speak, fear has to stop in its tracks.
I believe that love and fear are just energy vibrating at different levels. Fear can only exist when we believe there’s a separation of energy. If we see it and acknowledge it, we allow it to rejoin love
When fear appaers, look it right in the eye.
Tell it you see it.
When you see it for what it is, you allow it return home.
Fear is a feeling but it doesn’t have to take over. Maybe that’s happened in the past, but that was then and this is now. You are the keeper of your mind and body..
When fear appears in my life, I view it as a reminder from my body, the human me, how much I care. Fear is appearing because I am concerned about loss, or not doing well, or even separation. But both science and spirituality teach me that I am one with all. When I move back into oneness, I let love be my leader. I let love in and I share it with all around me.
Allowing fear in may be the best lesson we have in learning how to listen to our deeper self. With those of us with anxious attachment styles we do need to remember that fear may not always be a bad thing as it may show us what is or is not healthy for us. I think our deepest need is to stay connected to love for ourselves in all situations and even for those whose energy may be difficult or harmful for us because sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to walk away or send the back off signal. Even the Buddha said if you see a snake on the road you don’t let it bite you and you remember to hiss. However understanding the nature of our myriad fears when they are counter productive can help us though. It can help us to learn more about what it might mean to truly love and nurture connection. We may even need to say to someone I feel fear, rather than lash out or run.
Emerging From The Dark Night 
One of the hardest things to do is say ‘I am afraid’…but once uttered you have faced it with your power, dared it to look back and realise you are no longer what went before. You have let more light into the darkness where it dwells and begin to see it for what it is…a lie we tell ourselves from childhood, reinforced only because we dared not face it because of its pain.
But in seeing its truth, it begins to break apart. Those walls we had built to protect ourselves begin to crumble, no longer the fortification we thought we needed. And no longer needing to hide in that understanding, we begin to stand tall, take steps that were once forbidden, lest we be lost. And the view, it is indescribable because where we thought we could see, we were in fact blind.
But this very journey is required so that we do understand us…can see, understand and appreciate what we have endured to find that lost soul within. Only in feeling that pain will our understanding find the compassion and love for ourselves because of what we have gone through. Wisdom is built on that very compassion, without one the other has no meaning. Without pain we have no depth.
Your journey young lady has been one that will give very much compassion, a love that we all desire, and the wisdom gained will find you that unconditional love that this journey is traveled for ❤
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I love the wisdom in that comment Mark because today I took the risk to vocalise my fear with someone very important to me and its moved us closer together and they too have been able to say they are scared and now we are joined in love. Its some kind of miracle. I think so much of our reactive behaviour is just driven by unconscious fear. Realising that is a huge step forward. Hugs and love ❤
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