To be a voice

I wrote a post yesterday I didn’t post then about being a person who says things that might confront relating to my particular astrological signature and the fact that Mercury planet of communications was opposing my Natal Pluto in the first house by transit over the past week or so.  I will post it just after I post this one.

I am writing this as a response to certain comments.  There are so many people out there struggling with compound trauma, events which happened to them which were outside of their control and in fact I was just listening to a programme on hostile architecture which is architecture that is being designed in cities to make it harder for homeless people to sleep out.  Here in Australia last year the Melbourne city council made a controversial bid to have homeless people exiled from city streets, it sparked an uproar and one of those people interviewed on the programme today was saying that in olden times there was an ethos by which it was naturally expected that the dispossessed or homeless were to be helped by the community.  However all that changed at a certain point in history to an ethos where it was seen to be a ‘sin’ to have fallen on hard times and be homeless or dispossessed.  The interviewee was saying how this meant that defenseless suffering people could now be blamed for their circumstances and then the onus on others or their hidden guilt could be passed off.

I was thinking while listening to this to the similarities to and with people who suffer with the effects of trauma or Complex trauma.   Of course with Complex trauma there are certain things we can do to care for ourselves and recover, but if the trauma is extreme and the damage or fall out intense some of us never fully recover, we may carry invisible illnesses, or weaknesses as a result which mean our need for help and comfort and empathy and assistance is greater.  In an increasingly self centred society where any form of weakness and vulnerablitity is seen as wrong or bad in some way or feared then these people can be sidelined and treated very poorly.  Add to this the hard reality that those who have never gone through these experiences can never fully understand or appreciate that added need within a person who has been so deeply scared.  It is any wonder some people who suffer consider not going on?

There are also those who never got to form a solid sense of self growing up with healthy boundaries, their assertive or self protective skills may have been disabled or never got to form in the first place, their longing for a lost, absent or emotionally unavailable parent may linger in their psyche ghostlike drawing them towards codependent or unhealthy relationships and repetition compulsion that plays out over years and leads to even more accident, trauma, somatic illness or other damage.

Such burdens are big ones to bear and in the later case we can do things to understand and recover out strength but not without the necessary help, support, insight and understanding.  So we need those who will be a voice for recovery and empathy in order that we can find our own voice and the ability to recover as much as we can.  Never was this more important than at this time in our collective development when the need for understanding, empathy, support and care are becoming such critical issues.

Anyway I am glad for the recent struggles I had and that I was able to voice some of the affect of certain comments on here.  It is not always easy to speak up, most especially for me, I am never sure if I am over reacting because that is what I was so often told when I was reacting to real needs not being recognised in my family.  It was expected I should shut up about it and when I got sober Mum was happy for me to be the identified patient and didnt take kindly to the idea that the alcoholism in my family was actually a familial rather than merely personal issue.  I will keep writing in an effort to give expression to it all and keep exploring the associated astrology in my personal time as its seems to help me understand when things are being triggered or playing out.   And I will post my post on Pluto in the first house after this one.

I would also like to say, if I can be a voice for you or for some of your concerns I am more than happy to be.  Send me a comment with a post you would like me to link to.  I love to promote other bloggers on here and am always up for new subjects of concern/ relevance to people struggling with PTS or Complex PTS.