Three things not to say to anyone who is grieving and why they hurt so much <3.
If you have lost someone you love, you know that there are no guidelines or instructions on how to get through your grief. You also know that people who try to support you will offer well known platitudes in an attempt to comfort you, but many of these comments do nothing more than confuse and hurt you.
It has been a decade since I lost my husband and son within two years of each other. Immediately after my losses, when some of these comments were made to me, I didn’t understand why I felt more upset than comforted by the statements. A decade later, I now have some insight into why, at least for the griever, these comments can cause additional pain. And why those wanting to support a loved one should use them with caution.
#1 Grief will make you stronger
I have never bought into the “what doesn’t…
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Emerging From The Dark Night 
Couldn’t agree more. My mother and I often spoke about exactly this 20 years ago in the years after my brother was killed.
Life goes on was another one they threw at us while another drink went down the hatch. They may as well have just said…. skol, skol, skol…. or bottoms up.
That was of course my brother’s cousins and aunt. Of the 500 or so at the funeral perhaps it was best that about a maximum of 8 only ever said anything to me again.
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What a huge loss for you both to have gone through Life may go on but it’s not the same life Yes have a few more drinks and numb it all.. so sorry you went through that. It hurts 💔
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We don’t drink. We deal with the pain no anaesthetic.
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Yes. And when we’re open like that we dont have the numbing effect.
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