Today I am my own mother and father. Being mature asks me to be, for myself, what healthy parents are for their children. Mature people make the best partners, and most of the people I know who live happily with other people have discovered several mature attitudes. They have a willingness and the grace to offer each other courtesy, kindness and acceptance; they are not crushed by the weight of each other’s moods or depressions; they resist the temptation to offer solutions for their loved one’s problems or make decisions for them; they do not depend on each other for emotional stability they make allowances for each other’s interests and hobbies; they share their belongings, responsibilities, freedom to express their feelings, trust, time and effort, and comfortable silences; they are happy being together or by themselves; they are not trying to be all things to all people.
Emerging From The Dark Night 
most of times, due to the lacking of good enough parents growing up, we’d been, deprived of love, and, we seek that love we never had as children from all around us, and in the end, we can’t find anything but disappointments, and until a chance came in our lives, that helped us realized that we can’t get the lacking of love that we never had as children from someone else, that we are the only ones, who can, truly, love our own selves, unconditionally, and that, is when we stop searching for that love we longed for and needed as young children, in our own, selves.
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Such powerful reflections. I haven’t reached that point by any means and am not sure I ever can. I am grateful that I have as of recently finally been able to support my spouse emotionally rather than the support being a one-way street.
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That is major progress, Astrid, when we were not raised with enough understanding ourselves, look at what you are owning and being so honest about, that is most survey wonderful progress. 🌹❤️🌹
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