We often learn to deny how we really feel in childhood.. We can then turn into someone who helps in order not to feel our own pain or allow others to weather their own which may have resulted in destructive choices
I have a post on being instinct injured backed up in drafts I have been working on for some time and today reading through the chapter Recovering from Trauma Based Codependency in Pete Walker’s book that post came to mind when I was reading about the fawn-freeze reaction to parental invalidation of self assertion and legitimate protest of the child. Walker deals in that chapter with how certain forms of punishment or silencing of protest contributes to learned helplessness..reading that I could not help but think of the description instinct injured, which is something Jungian therapist Clarissa Pinkola Estes dealt with a lot in her book Women Who Run With the Wolves and occurs to those of us whose valid needs may have lain unrecognised or been actively shamed or punished in childhood.
Fawn-freeze is one of several codependent sub types Walker explains in this chapter, those are the…
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