I just came across this comment on a post of someone struggling to overcome the fear of self and creative self expression of profound feelings. It spoke to me and I identified with it and I am a fan of the writer who is a wonderful poet and also has a legacy of adult child issues.. I hope she does not mind me sharing this here. It opens up the fear we may feel in being truly authentic to deep feelings and their expression in a world that so often makes us feel we should be ashamed for feeling so called ‘darker’ emotions like grief and sadness.
I started my response several hours ago. I don’t know if this will show up in the right place. I felt compelled to respond however as I related so deeply to what you said. I too often do not want to talk on the phone, don’t feel like I should have to make an excuse as to why I don’t feel like going somewhere, or justify anything that is not a harm to anyone else. I agree with what you said about sadness. People see it as a weakness, we feel what we want to write but we often worry how it comes across. Thank you for writing this beautiful story and sharing honesty with this reader who loves the truth. Love and hugs, Joni 
Emerging From The Dark Night 