The truth is that nobody is owed an apology for anything. Apologies are lovely when they happen. But they change nothing. They do not reverse actions or correct damage. They are merely nice to hear.
The truth is that life itself is brutally, obscenely unfair. Consider all those other millions of sperm cells that were just as good as the one that resulted in you and where are they now? Dead, nowhere.
Fairness is not amoung the laws of the universe this means, if somebody runs over your foot in a car and they don’t stop, that’s too bad and it totally sucks and you better bust your ass and get yourself to a hospital right away so they can save the foot.
Avoid self pity by taking responsibility for everything that happens to you, even if somebody else is at fault, I don’t mean play doormat. I mean repair yourself. Move forward. Move on. Then only then see if you can wrangle some empathy.
Most of us have love in our lives. Most of us love other people and are ourselves loved by others
But make no mistake : you are alone in the world. You were born alone, even if you were born conjoined. And you die alone, unable to bring a single person with you.
Self pity means waiting for that man with the glass slipper that perfectly fits your foot to knock on the door. Self pity is waiting to be bottle fed your dinner.
The truth behind the truth is this: even if you are a victim, you must never be a victim.
Even if you deserve to be one.
Because while you wait for somebody to come along and set things right, life has moved forward without you.
Emerging From The Dark Night 