A very important post.. When we feel unlovable we allow ourselves to feel like the dysfunctional one, the burden.. this is a very helpful post from Cynthia
When I was growing up, I remember feeling like my entire purpose in life was only to serve people no matter any personal cost, never burden anyone, never inconvenience anyone in any way or even cost anyone anything. This continued into adulthood where it was reinforced by the extremely toxic narcissists I have known.
The result of this was me believing some pretty dysfunctional things. One of those things was that if a relationship I was in was to succeed, I “only” had to forget all of my feelings, wants & needs, & focus completely on the other person.
While this may sound utterly impossible to believe, I assure you it is quite true. I also can assure you that such dysfunctional beliefs are ingrained in many victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you are someone who has thought this way, I am speaking to you today.
Whatever any narcissist told…
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