Loving Anita Moorjani’s latest book Sensitive Is The New Strong : The Power of Empaths in an Increasingly Harsh World. The chapter on victim consciousness, filters and misperceptions we acquire growing up in a devaluing world makes a lot of sense to me.. For those of you who do not know Anita suffered a terminal illness and died only to return and her first book Dying To Be Me was published by Hay House following that.. I was lucky enough to be guided to a read version on CD of that book that I found at my local library in the months after my oldest sister (who was born on 2 January) died in April 2014.
On the other side of life, through a near death experience Anita toched deeper spiritual dimensions and felt the power of unconditional love, she learned that basically all of the conditioning she had been given up as a young Indian woman growing up in a patriarchal culture was wrong.
Anita was bullied as a child. In a culture that devalues women she was put down and made to feel she was both ugly and of little value, however from a young age Anita (like many of us) was sensitive, in touch with the mystical and wise but over time she learned to turn against herself and turn down the dial on her inner knowing
When Anita ‘died’ she also saw that all of the futile attempts she used to deal with her terminal lymphoma in terms of seeking a ‘cure’ through things like yoga, foods and alternative therapies were a waste of time, at root, it was her lack of self love and failure to live as her true self in alignment with her spiritual value and knowing that was killing her, it was her fear of being herself fully that derailed her life..
In her second book What If This Is Heaven she busts apart a lot of the myths prevalent in our culture about health and full blooded well being we have sucked up.. I actually have a post on that in my drafts folder which I have not got around to completing yet.
In the chapter of her new book Dying To Be You she speaks about her conditioning and bullying and how in failing to take our power back from fucked up filters and perceptual self distortion swe can remain as victims… We also learn to lose touch with our mystical, creative and intuitive sides, sides of us I believe we were more connected to as kids before adults or others around us filled us with negative messages and judgement that only led us to shut down who we really are and turn away from our intuition.. We often also lost our connection with the healing power of nature.
Anita recommends us no longer turning against ourselves, taping inot our power and spirit, raising our vibration as well as tuning into our inner intuitive self and internal guidance system in order that we make wise choices over how to live and attune.. I watched a very helpful video she posted on Facebook a while back on raising your vibration. Those of us in tune as empaths know where and when we can learn to recharge and revitalise.. Connecting to nature, music, pets, beauty, bathing, swimming and soaking in the positive ions of a storm or rain shower are just some of the ways.
The following words of wisdom come from that self same chapter
Here are some other ways to differentiate between the voice of your higher, infinite self, and the voice of your fear based mind. Following your higher voice feels very light, and recharges your batteries, whereas following your fear based mind drains you. Your higher self is unconditionally loving; your higher self will also never lead you to deliberately hurt or cause harm to other people, while your fear based mind makes you feel less than an inadequate.
When you start to get into a flow where you are following your inner guidance, your life is working smoothly and things are happening effortlessly, it will feel great. That is how I feel most of the time. However there are times I feel like something just knocks me out of my frequency (back down to a low energy of vibration) where I can no longer hear my inner voices. For me criticism does it, especially both harsh criticism, meanness or someone being nasty to me online.. for others it is fear, guilt, anger, criticism and seeking approval.
Become aware of when you get knocked out of your frequency and notice it.. (notice when the lower negative voice of mind tries to derail you and blocks a more loving inner voice of wisdom and guidance.)
When this happens Anita reminds us to focus on something positive and uplifting such as gratitude, self love voices or nature. Sometimes though if we has extreme early emotional neglect (or our parents passed this on) , we may even need to reach out when we find we are going down low with toxic inner voices to those we trust who see the darkness in that, just as I had to do on Tuesday. Though we have to defeat those killing voices within at times alone many of us may need what a good AA friend calls a ‘reality’ check when we get taken down with virulent self attacks or are on the receiving end of them from others with issues..
Learning to notice when we are slipping into patterns of self devaluation and self rejection and away for unconditional friendlness is so important… Learning what things drain and nourish us is important. Learning to be mindful of connecting to inner guidance and voices of self championing and the unconditional love of Higher Power is also so so so important for us sensitives and empaths and those us of working to overcome the suicidal or self punishing feelings chronic carried emotional neglect has lodged inside of us.
Emerging From The Dark Night 