There really is no sugar coating narcissistic abuse or wounding by a parent, no matter how tough their own childhood.. This video followed an earlier one I watched by Dr Ramani on the Pollyanna defender of narcissists, the idea that all people have some good in them, which is not actually borne out by some of the cruelty a narcissist will inflict on others.
Dr Ramani makes some very important points in this video on how not to end up invalidating the reality of what happened to you at the hands of parents who truly did not know how to be there for you as well as the sometimes lasting legacy of inward second guessing as well as self doubt and inward invalidation such a childhood may leave inside a sufferer.
Emerging From The Dark Night 