When People Minimize Or Dismiss Good Things About Scapegoats

Most of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse know about the scapegoat. Scapegoats are often labeled the problem child, spoiled, selfish, disrespectful, rebellious, trouble maker, outcast & more. They are blamed for all problems in the family, even when they have nothing to do with those problems.

One other very common way scapegoats are abused is by minimizing or dismissing anything good about the scapegoat. If you’re the scapegoat, no doubt you have been in this situation. You were excited about getting a promotion at work, winning a contest, or even getting pregnant. In the joy of the moment, you told someone in your family who immediately changed the subject, totally ignored you or compared your situation unfavorably to someone else in a similar one.

Here is one example from my life. Before becoming an author, I did some editing work. I got a job for a local author &…