Caring too much about public opinion

We have to be realistic in life, we have to accept that there are people out there that may take pleasure in putting others down, in wanting to cause them harm and really not caring about their feelings. I just read about someone who placed themselves in the public eye by appearing on a reality dating show and is now claiming a mental collapse due to the vitriol of those who want to tear her relationship down. While I can empathize I do think there is a time we have to find some kind of way to be able to detach from such hatred, since its not hurting the person spewing it out at all, indeed having someone react in such a way that shows they are hurt just tends to feed the negativity more and more and more and tends just to feed the damaged ego of the bully, troll or ‘hater’.

If its true that the majority of us seek some kind of external validation especially if it was lacking in our growing up and and that we do need at times that kind of confirmation, it is definately not the be all and end all of life..Just think about it, if someone was really happy in their life would they consistently be as invested in trying to make someone else’s life miserable?

I know in my own life having high sensitivity as well as a thin skin how hurt I have been at times by this kind of thing.. But in the end I have realized that the person who wants to hurt me is really not someone that should really end up being all that important in my life.. True inner confidence rest upon knowing we are okay as we are and that its also okay to be happy, even if others want to be negative and miserable…also on accepting that we wont be happy all of the time because it is part of being human to both be vulnerable and struggle sometimes.. The person involved is actually a very kind sweet person, she has found love and happiness, something others only want to tear down and question. To be honest I feel sad for the haters. What a diminished way to live and also for the person is question..She is far too lovely to even give one of this trolls the time of day or the capacity to make her miserable.