Much anxiety is down to an inability to self soothe.. We did not get connection when we needed it.. This video explains what happens when parents are taught not to soothe a child’s distress. We can practice self soothing of our inner child, but we really need to listen to what anxiety may be trying to tell us, especially the lack of intimate connection.
Emerging From The Dark Night 
I just finished reading the book “Inner Bonding” by Margaret Paul you suggested in a comment to me awhile back. It hit so close to home for me. Thank you for suggesting it!
It allowed me to get a clearer sight of my inner world and what in it causes so much of my pain and a plan on how to move forward. Thank you so much for all you share of yourself and your journey! You are such a kind, creative, brave, and insightful person. 💕
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Aww it fills my heart with good feelings to know it helped you. She truly is wonderful and all he says here relates so strongly to the process of inner connection in her work. Thanks so much for your feedback and friendship.
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