Its natural to cry if we have suffered trauma

I picked up a very good book written by an Australian trauma specialist Dr Jeannine Higgins at the book fair in September called Evolve With Trauma : Become Your Own Safe, Compassionate and Wise Friend.  It contains a lot of facts and useful information on being kind to yourself in trauma.  The tendency for trauma survivors is to beat ourselves up and this is despite the fact we have gone through abuse or pain or losses that often were not our fault.  We also meet misunderstanding from those who wonder why we can not just ‘get over’ such deeply painful experiences.   Jeannie explains that we cannot rationalise away trauma or traumatic memories because trauma by its very nature destroys links in the brain between our emotional/memory self and the rational self.

In a brilliant chapter entitled I can’t stop crying.  Am I going mad? she writes.

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