People with open hearts

I have a feeling that people with open hearts will often be hurt.. It may be to do with empathy but when I feel someone struggling I desire to reach out in love and see what I can do to help. Thinking about the recent trials with helping and being hurt so much maybe its not so wise to open my heart to some people. I just do not know. Then at other times when I reach out love comes back to me, so maybe it all a big gamble and in life there are no hard and fast rules or wrong and right ways to be as far as the heart is concerned. That said there are boundaries and those boundaries affect our health and energy.

For the past few nights I have been listening to an I am safe meditation when the person says some things, like the world is full of kind people (even though I know that to be true) I question if that kind of thinking is not just all a bit too naive and innocent. After all I have been ripped off one too many times now and its hurting and making me judge and question everything. Just listening to the meditation that tells me it is safe to be me and trust, has made me realise how much self doubt I struggle with at times.. the true evidence in life also seems to come from fronting up to experience in a soul and heart and body what happens when you open up or risk yourself and sharing your truth or heart. That said it is only your truth, not another persons.

I will try to keep my heart open. I am still learning about boundaries, I also know painful things happening involves a learning and that may be a tough learning and it changes us in fundamental ways, it often seems to me we float in an interconnected sea of humans and are influenced greatly by the energy of those we are associated to and with.. So it pays to be heedful and mindful and always try to trust that inner voice that says something does not feel right.. instead of over-riding it.

Post script.. .after posting this I came across the following reading by Tian Dayton:

I can be hurt if I open my heart, but that is just part of being alive. Hate lets me off the hook; though it is a natural human emotion, I can easily dismiss and distance what I hate. But I don’t have to fear love as I do, it no longer has to mean enmeshment and sick obligation – because love can allow me a new kind of distance, through space and ease and acceptance. Love can allow me to let people, places and things be…. I can surrender my wish to control people, places and things.

It occurs to me after reading above, love may mean the need to say.. ‘No, I am sorry I cannot help’ because that would mean we were no longer tied in to what she calls a ‘sick obligation’. As humans we need skill to know what aspects of other’s lives they struggle with must be theirs to address and have control over. Sometimes rescuing others is just abandoning ourselves.