A very comprehensive post on attachment and intimacy.. Knowledge of our attachment style and wounds can help us understand why after trauma relationships become so much more problematic… there are lots of additional resources to help navigate how your style relates in the world to others.. such as the book Becoming Attached. Knowing how and why we avoid or become resistant it essential to our healing and growth as trauma survivors.
Attachment theory is an area of psychology that is ever evolving; as sociological and psychological advancements replace once early theories by Bowlby (1958), Ainsworth (1970), Lorenz (1935), Harlow (1958) and Dollard & Miller (1950).
Bowlby’s theories proved popular (mostly in America) as it was viewed as a nonsensical self explanatory approach. Bowlby and later his student; Ainsworth, provided a positive and achievable theory for parents – if a mother is loving, affectionate and consistent; her child will be protected magically from anxiety and depression in later adult life.
Attachment can be defined as a deep emotional bond in which each individual seeks closeness and feels a sense of security when in the presence of the attachment figure.
Bowlby defined attachment as a ‘lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.'(1969, p. 194)
Although recently criticized, Bowlby provided the world of psychology with seminal work in the area of attachment. The…
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One of the best books I’ve read on attachment theory and adult relationships is Sue Johnson’s “Love Sense.” In fact, all her books are excellent for understanding what often goes wrong in intimate relationships 🙂
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Thanks for the recommendation I will get a copy..Much appreciated.
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Attachment theory legit changed my life, this was a great read, thanks! x
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Mine too as well as a book called Addiction as Attachment Disorder by a guy called Flores. We seek that missing connection through substances.
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