A true friend

A true friend gets you. They know what is in your heart and when they don’t they are willing to listen carefully while you explain.. For a strong friendship to grow you don’t even have to see the person very often, it lies in the bond you had and the experiences you shared and a similarity of world view.

This is not to say that someone who does not share your views is not likely to be your friend but both of you will show respect and ask for clarification if necessary, because you care for the other’s heart and their feelings and opinions matter. That said there may be a time to stand back in true friendship, there is an allowing that happens in that you can allow the other person space and time to work through their feelings without the threat of abandonment.. How many of us can say we experienced this with our parents? Sadlt what we experience as children is often transferred in adult relationships and must be worked through so we can be a friend and know what a good friendship is.

The following quote is from David Richo and appears in a post I will link to below taken from his writing.. It seems to sum up the healthy friendship I am lucky enough to have with several people in my life.

There is a central difference between living in a committed relationship and in single life.  In single life the virtues of humility, compassion, attentiveness, caring and patience are recommended.  In a committed relationship they are required.

Today I was so grateful for a beautiful catch up with my dear friend Sue. I was so sad to hear her brother has been battling cancer for the past while, he was a victim of bullying abuse in childhood and got into recovery for addiction a while ago. I was so happy to hear he is getting really good support and could finally open up to his sister about the abuse he went through so many years ago and had to remain silent about before. I felt for my friend today, but she had such a positive, accepting outlook. Its such a wonderful gift to have a friend who is so open and positive in my life.. I just felt the need to write a post on friendship after seeing her… its so important to express to our friends just what they mean to us and that is what came out of our meeting today. The gift of friendship is so valuable, and we can always learn ways to be a better friend.

Link :

https://emergingfromthedarknight.wordpress.com/2018/05/28/healthy-relationships/