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There is a reason : reflections on anger, needs and the True Self

As far as anger is concerned I am realising how often we demonise those who express it rather than listen so deeply to what is going on. My therapist always tells me that NO!! is the cry of the true self. The real in us rebels against what is not right. Somewhere deep down we know what we need but killing forces can often rupture these instincts in us. And idealism and perfectionism often don’t allow for messy human natural realities or vulnerabilities. That said we cannot alway have our own way and sometimes we need to compromise if we love others but that compromising should not compromise the integrity and authenticity of our True Self.

Those of us raised in neglectful or narcissistic households learn early on we don’t count much and our feelings and needs aren’t honoured. Others needs and wills are stronger. If we show anger about this we are cast out or punished so we learn over time to deny what we feel think or need. We become satellites in a bid to be seen. Healing comes when we hear the lonely angry cry of our neglected emotionally starved self and look for healthier sources answering with love from within our selves., turning to our Higher Power and soul for inner guidance, while learning to trust again in our own healthy needs and instincts We become stronger and grow when we begin to realise we dont have to feel ashamed for having these needs, feelings and instincts or having them wounded in childhood. We can learn who we really are by listening deeply to them.

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"The religious naturalist is provisioned with tales of natural emergence that are, to my mind, far more magical than traditional miracles. Emergence is inherent in everything that is alive, allowing our yearning for supernatural miracles to be subsumed by our joy in the countless miracles that surround us." Ursula Goodenough How to describe oneself? People are a mystery and there is so much more to us than just our particular experiences or occupations. I could write down a list of attributes and they still might not paint a complete picture pf Deborah Louise and in any case it would not be the full truth of me. I would say that my purpose here on Wordpress is to express some of my random experiences, thoughts and feelings, to share about my particular journey and explore some subjects dear to my heart, such as emotional recovery, healing and astrology while posting up some of the prose/poems which are an outgrowth of my labours with life, love and relationships. If anything I write touches you I would be so pleased to hear for the purpose of reaching out and expressung ourselves is hopefully to connect with each other and find where our souls meet.

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5 thoughts on “There is a reason : reflections on anger, needs and the True Self”

      1. Thank you

        Many that suffer affliction from being subjected to Hell and have your innocence ripped away from should never come from the one that is suppose to protect you from Nemesis.

        That was not the case for me many times truly believe I was going to be murder by them and “it” would and did indulged as of sense of erotic perversion of seeing me suffer and be tormented.

        I learn at very young age that if I was going to survive and fight for my life it would because of Me.

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      3. Like I said all times they tried to break me , shattered me into nothing I refuse to stop fighting even though knowing there would be recoil affect to not bowing down and being submissive.

        It gave me life that’s it

        But they did real number on me I not seen myself as use to before Christmas.When I look into the mirror I see a reflection of nothing more then Grey Eyes.

        https://evolutionofselffeedyourhunger.wordpress.com/2019/02/18/grey-eyes

        https://evolutionofselffeedyourhunger.wordpress.com/2019/02/22/after-shock-from-the-mass-left-behind/

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