We can be there for ourselves

No matter what we go through in this life, if we can be there for ourselves we are never truly alone.  I do believe that looking outside of ourselves to the wrong place for comfort, empathy or understanding is far more damaging to a soul than practicing self care.  Hard as we try there are people out there who will never get us and will in fact actively misunderstand or resist us.  If we don’t have a solid base of self inside we may believe what they say to us.  If we were negated or invalidated or neglected a lot in childhood we may have learned that such negation or invalidation is the natural scheme of things.  The most important thing we absolutely must have connection to in order to feel content is the truth of our own feelings and perceptions and emotions.  We need a sense of self value and that how we feel makes sense to have emotional connection and integrity, without this our souls suffer and are so lonely.

I firmly believe that every single one of us has a higher self inside.  Some call it the witness self.  It is the knower inside who has been there since birth (and who knows, if not, prior to birth too) and has a memory of everything.  This part of us may even have knowing of our soul purpose. Trouble is that for some of us this part of ourselves can get severed or split off or buried under a false or negating ego self that only puts us down, formed by powerful introjects of things said to us when young or old beliefs absorbed before we got to be fully grounded in our own truth.

We need access to this witness self.  In my own life I often visualise it as a loving mother/Goddess energy that can comfort me. It knows the right thing to say when I am in distress.  As I write this post the words of Robbie William’s song (another Aquarian) come to me :

“Through it all she offers me protection, a lot of love and affection, whether I’m right or wrong

And down the waterfall where ever it may take me I know that life wont break me

When I call, she wont forsake me.”

Who knows if this higher self is a Guardian angel?  But I do know that when things get really low and I have been down on bruised knees this force has been there to turn to and has in time turned things around if I have just trusted, asked and prayed.  In the end it is the most powerful force we can tap into.  One that will never forsake us for the deepest pain of all is forsaking our true self.